i recently heard about a teenage girl who was bullied so badly she took her own life. it was a quick piece on the evening news and so i googled it to find the story. instead of finding a few hundred hits on this recent tragedy, i found 131 000 hits on many many tragedies of this type.
girls bullying girls. guys bullying guys. and so on. pre-teen and teenage students who have been bullied and take their own life. horrible tragedies. unnecessary deaths. on the google search, i found ages of students who took their own lives: 11, 12, 15, 17…unbelievable. sad. tragic. i don’t know i have words to actually express this incomprehensible trend.
these are unnecessary deaths. deaths with no answer. deaths that don’t make sense because bullying seems so senseless. why don’t we stop the bullying? why don’t we prevent these problems? what do we say? what do we do?
though the students getting bullied are bound to have low self-esteem and fall into depression – they are not the only piece of this puzzle we need to focus on. though their esteem is low, it is possible that the bully has even lower self-esteem.
no one thinks that the blonde-haired, sporty, cheerleader with money has low self-esteem, but the reality is, it’s probably inconceivably low. this is, in no way, an excuse for what many of these “mean girls” do, but it is the reality. and this reality is that both sides of this coin, the bully and the bullied, need reinforcement into who they are. they need to be built up, not torn down. need to learn that their identity isn’t in clothes, stuff, relationships, what’s cool. why don’t we teach that more?
there is an answer in all of this. the answer is building each other up, not tearing each other down. the answer is staring into who we are and what we were created for. our identity is found and made whole in Christ. He has made us complete. without the need for tearing others down, insulting them, slandering them on facebook, and driving them to the unspeakable. we are made perfect in His love. in Christ, we are enough. why don’t we teach that more?